How to stop premature ejaculation with visualization.
Visualization is a hot topic at the moment but how can it help you stop premature ejaculation?
Visualization can train your mind and your body to connect and control your actions because it sets your habit mind in motion. Getting into a good habit and dropping the negative habit (because you don’t do it anymore)!
Premature ejaculation has many origins but one of the most important factors is becoming aware and slowing your body down. Visualization is just one part of the small jigsaw puzzle which fits with, breathwork, PC muscle exercise and practices like Qi Gong and Tai Chi which promote the mind body connection.
Sportsmen have used this tool for years – watch any player taking a penalty, lining up a golf shot – they take a deep breath- visualize where and how to hit the ball and then they do it because visualization combined with training has formed the habit of hitting the ball plus the incentive to be good enough to play (with the team) and enjoy it!
So everyday for 10 minutes relax breathe deeply (video here https://www.renaissancevitality.com/about.html ) Visualize yourself with your lover, take time to imagine the feel of her hair, the softness of her lips, the roundness of her body. Remember you have all the time in the world to make love, imagine the place- in the garden, in a cosy bedroom by the fire, a relaxing safe space where no one can disturb you, it’s your personal vision. Imagine her touching you and kissing intimately, the weight of her body upon yours- remember this is your imagination and it’s a visualization not a fantasy, it’s the visualization of you making love to her for as long as you want –slowly, taking your time no rush.
Do this everyday for at least 21-28 days that’s how long it takes for the brain to form new neural pathways of positive change. Make a promise to insight change now! Because you deserve the sex you want and to share it.
What is sexual healing?
There are several unique facets of the Sexual Healing process which is the integration of your mind and body.
When you practice correct diaphragmatic breathwork it roots you in the present moment- the anxiety of negative experiences has no room in the mind, you breathe oxygen into your body which enables your heart, lungs, kidneys to power blood flow into your genital area.
You come from a place of love not only for other people and also making love is not just for sharing with our lover but the practices of self care is the basis of self love.
Many people are often in a loop of negativity when you are plagued by the past which prevents you being totally in your body during sex/love-making.
If we have encountered a negative experience of sex which can range from abuse or just harsh words from friends in the locker room or an unthinking lover, our parents negativity of sexual love or a feeling of shame or inadequacy of our body – all these and more are all negative feelings that haunt us. Often it’s a loop our own mind has created that is based on a sentence spoken by another who has never even realized the impact of those words - or the words have been misconstrued and just play over in our mind.
If we experienced sex when it wasn’t part of an equal and loving union then so many negative emotions can rise up, the feeling of violation, when permission wasn't sought nor given.
Yet the fact is - it wasn’t our fault, we hadn’t given our permission or we were a victim of something that we didn’t understand at the time. This is where the mind and body can become disconnected because your mind shuts down - your body stiffens and tightens with the memories of sex with no emotional connection or love brings these difficult feelings to the surface.
When a caring heart centred space is held for you, you can heal those painful memories and create memories of joy and pleasure and this is what our body was made for, to receive loving bliss and to give this to those we feel a heart connection to.
You can heal. You can begin another chapter in your life because you can replace the pain of the past with beautiful memories of what sexuality should be, a loving, life affirming experience of powerful bliss which releases every feel good chemical in your body in a safe environment.
Talk therapy can never erase the cellular memory of a negative experience, you have to replace this with a lived through positive experience and learn new ways of perceiving your amazing body. A body that automatically tenses when sexual feelings rise needs to shown a way through the barrier and relax into pleasure through caring, honouring touch.
You may have no sense of this tension, this is often the case when men get caught up in a circle of anxiety which leads to Premature Ejaculation or Erectile Dysfunction. The tension blocks the sexual energy or the awareness of the reflex of ejaculation is disconnected, the mind is over-thinking or replaying a negative scenario or the subconscious has formed a habit which becomes unconscious.
You can heal, there is a natural way and only you can be the catalyst of change.
close the door to pe & ED
When we're born every day is special, the world is exciting and everything is new.
We feel no shame or guilt every touch brings us joy. Our mind isn't filled with the negativity of the past we are free to experience love with no hurt.
We are free from the limits of our mind. What if we could be free to experience sexuality without the confines of what the media and religion says are the ways we should make love.
When you let go of the preconceptions of what we're led to believe sex should be like and instead allow your body to feel rather than your mind to think about the next move- then something amazing happens-instinct- and that’s what many people have lost, felt sense and gut instinct. No mind required.
During a session I show you how you can let go the idea of what should happen. Of how you think your body should be reacting and just let your body be with the sensations. The body is unblocked and free to find that elusive place of infinite joy, spontaneity and presence, letting the good vibrations permeate your body and soul, no thought needed just being there in a state of –wonder – open to what occurs with no preconceptions or filters from the past. In this world there is no such thing as Premature Ejaculation or Erectile Dysfunction because you invite a natural state of response and no pressure purely in the present moment. And that's how you return to making love letting your body not your mind respond to your partners touch or your own touch and what feels good.
Your personal solution to premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction
Practical steps to overcoming PE and ED safely at home.
I’m passionate about guiding everyone to enjoy optimum pleasure in all aspects of their lives. This is one of the reasons I decided to produce a Special Video Guide so you can treat Premature Ejaculation at home or find a real solution to Erectile Dysfunction taking into consideration the fact that not everyone can get to my private Haven to see me.
But it’s also a guide for those who have been to see me and want a reminder of how to do the practices I showed them correctly and incorporate it into their daily routine, these practices are also preparatory and good to have some knowledge of before a personal session too.
I'm also very conscious that this may sound like a boring exercise schedule that you do a couple of times then give up on. The Home Practice Video Guides certainly aren’t - they are a personal guide to men’s ME time. You can do some of the relaxation and energy techniques during your day if you have a private space or time alone during your working day. They are designed to feel good rather than being another chore- some provide you with intensified sexual stimulation and orgasmic pleasure- that’s really nice homework!
The practices are also designed as a mechanism for you to let go of the stress of your working day so you can be fully present with your partner or family instead of your mind in over drive recalling your working day or anxiety about tomorrow. Nobody needs or wants to carry that stress around wearing you down, when the alternative life is so much more calming and joyful. You need clarity to give your best performance at work not stress.
The sexual energy techniques you practice revitalize your energy throughout the day and also connect you to your powerful sexual energy so you can tap into this when you need it for positive thinking, work strategy, creativity, sport and of course love making and vital sustainable energy.
The visualization techniques and practical self pleasure guidance for conquering premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction retrain your brain with habitual practice, learning positive habits to replace the negative spiral you may have found yourself-these home practice video guides give you a natural way out and break your circle of anxiety by forging new neural pathways- neural-plasticity, our brains have the capacity to change and learn at any age.
During the video practice you are using the same part of your brain that learns habits and skills, all the things you need to be a caring lover and experience making love for as long as you want whilst feeling extraordinary pleasure or to regain the power of the lovemaking you have already experienced but have lost through stress, performance anxiety, illness or years of negative sexual energy and habits.
Your mind and body have the ability to heal and regenerate, age is no barrier. Our love life is a very important part of life and general well-being. Never believe that change isn’t possible, because anything is possible with love, time and knowledge.
In these Home Practice Videos - Your Guide to Make Sex last Longer - Ultimate Pleasure. I give you just that back - The ability to make love naturally, no pills, no potions just the power of your own Sexual Energy in Harmony –Mind-Body-Soul- Be the Lover You want To Be.
Take a look at my videos-
SEX TECHNIQUES - How to make Sex last longer- PE- Ultimate Pleasure Guide https://www.renaissancevitality.com/how-to-cure-premature-ejaculation-video.html
SEX Techniques- How to Make Sex Last Longer-ED- Ultimate Pleasure Guide.
Peace and Love from Tara (00353) 0 870990970
best natural ways to treat ed at home- raise your testosterone levels
What you eat impacts your testosterone levels. Low testosterone is linked to chronic fatigue which seriously affects libido and general vitality. Included below is a Naturopathic Doctor's guide to improving your testosterone levels which can make a huge difference when treating Erectile Dysfunction
The modern lifestyle has had a detrimental effect on testosterone levels and ever increasing instances of men being affected by unexplained erectile dysfunction.
Even after just a few days of dietary change you could notice a difference to your sexual energy.
Here are some reasons why Testosterone is important and not just for low libido and overcoming erectile dysfunction. It also works with your body to maintain a healthy pain response, perfect levels of red blood cells, enables peaceful and regulation of sleep patterns, strong bones, muscle mass and energy levels.
Getting older also is a factor as our testosterone naturally depletes but lifestyle factors also can accelerate this depletion such as chronic stress, lack of balanced nutrition, imbalanced gut good bacteria, insufficient Vitamin D, extra weight, insufficient exercise, prescription medication (heart and blood pressure and anti depressants especially). These decrease our metabolism and drastically reduce testosterone.
It's probably the case that up to 45% of adults are affected by this including women who need to produce this hormone for the same reasons as men albeit in slightly lower levels.
The synthetic supplements that are available can’t work in the same way as naturally produced hormones as our body doesn't recognise synthetic vitamins in the same way as natural vitamins. Synthetic vitamins can cause negative side effects some have even been proven to lead to strokes.
Here some great simple ways to naturally boost your testosterone levels.
Intermittent Fasting which sounds hard to incorporate into your life has been shown to increase testosterone levels by 200% and up to 400%. You can make gradual changes, like eating bigger 1 day and less the next, trying the 5-2 diet eating a normal healthy diet 5 days a week and on 2 separate days restrict calorie intake to 500 calories.
Gradually you can work up to restricting eating to a dedicated window of set hours every 24 hours. This also promotes growth hormone rates which are linked to testosterone production.
You can still enjoy up to 3 meals if you wish but eating only within a six hour period e.g 12-6pm or a smaller window if preferred. Fasting for short periods naturally balances all your hormones and gives some of your organs a rest and chance to detox especially your liver.
Lifting Weights and and Interval training.
This type of exercise has been shown to increase serum testosterone levels and burn fat and sugar which stimulates hormone production.
When you work your body this way even practicing moderate and light weights for at least 30 minutes 3 times a week combined with high intensity work outs in short bursts has a great effect.
Interval training also burns fat for 36 hours, lowers your resting heart rate, lowers blood pressure, activates blood flow to your brain and cleanses your lymphatic system.
Most men lacking in testosterone overload their bodies with processed foods. Foods with non nutrient calories and too much bad sugar and carbohydrates. By changing your diet to a more organic and non processed way of eating including natural healthy fats your hormone level dramatically increases.
Healthy fats include coconut oil, fermented dairy products homemade kefir, yoghurt, raw goat and sheep milk cheese but not supermarket bought dairy as that actually lowers your testosterone levels.
Omega 3 fish oil are naturally found in organic salmon are one of the best ways to improve testosterone levels and are good to eat weekly or even taking a natural fish oil supplement is great too. Flaxseeds, chia seeds and walnuts provide you with this essential fat too.
Good healthy fats found in a daily avocado, olive oil and almonds all naturally boost your testosterone levels.
Your liver produces an enzyme that conjugates the 17 beta-hydroxyl group of testosterone. If cirrhosis of the liver is formed then it's likely that your serum testosterone can be reduced. This affects 90% of men a study showed so it’s vital your liver is healthy for testosterone production.
Taking milk thistle for a short time helps to detox the liver. If you drink alcohol, then make sure you have 3-4 non drinking days in the week to give your liver a rest and cleanse.
Reduce Stress in Your Life
Chronic stress can seriously affect your so many aspects of you life. We all need a little stress to focus and maximize our potential but it’s when stress becomes overwhelming and too much cortisol is produced that the body becomes imbalanced. Holding on to anger inside, frustration, resentment, and not being able to forgive others all add to tension in the mind and body which blocks hormone production of testosterone.
Taking a natural Ginseng supplement can also help to regulate cortisol.
Vitamin D is vital to a healthy life and is produced naturally from being outside in the sun. You need to be outside for at least 20-30 minutes per day, you cannot get this from fortified drink no matter what the manufacturers would like us to believe. Lack of Vitamin D will crush your levels of testosterone and if you are deficient in Vitamin D then without this even by doing all the other things right nothing will work unless you increase your levels of Vitamin D.
No Sugar- You don't need Processed Sugar
No other sugars provide you with B vitamins and other good things but raw honey and maple syrup.
Processed sugar found in convenience foods and white sugar in tea and coffee imbalances your hormones and depletes Testosterone levels, simple as.
If you develop type 2 diabetes then it normally follows your testosterone will be significantly lowered. This explains the process;
When you eat a diet high in processed grains (bread biscuits, manufactured cakes and sugars then your blood glucose levels rise to a dangerous level.
To keep blood sugar levels from going overboard, your pancreas works harder to make insulin. The insulin transports the sugar from your bloodstream into your cells to become energy.
If this continues then you become insulin resistant which causes type 2 diabetes. Diabetes is not conducive to testosterone production, but you can overcome the effects of medication and during a one to one session I show the techniques to enable your body to flow with sexual energy from simple energy techniques that aid your body despite medication.
It's vital you get 7-8 hours of good unbroken sleep otherwise then your body cannot repair it’s cells or detox the kidneys and liver. This natural detox happens during set times of sleep it’s your circadian rhythm that promotes hormone production and the rhythm of 10pm to 6pm is perfect for your revitalization.
Your Ratio of Body Fat
Being overweight and all the ill effects associated with that lifestyle are the major contribution to low testosterone levels, usually due to lack of exercise and too much processed food which contains sugar which leads to insomnia which leads to depletion of your testosterone.
Foods that give your body the vitamins and minerals you need to promote your production of testosterone are here;
These are a good source of anti-oxidents , cucumber and pomegranate juice root Ginger, beetroot.
Zinc is imperative and is found in oysters, shellfish, organic red meat, organic poultry, beans, nuts.
Organic non processed plant milks e.g oat milk, almond milk are great and so is raw cow's milk but not pasturized even if it's organic as the pasturization causes changes to the molecular structure of the mile
Beans, lentils, nuts and seeds and whole grains.
An excellent source of magnesium can be found in organic Leafy green vegetables, swiss chard, spinach and kale.
You can get your supply of Omega 3s from Oily fish Organic Salmon, mackerel, herring, sardines, trout. Free range organic eggs.
Extra Virgin Olive oil.
During a session I can guide you a better connection with your Mind-Body. The tools for getting the best out of life are within your reach and I'd love to guide you on your healing journey.
How to overcome erectile dysfunction naturally and permanently- kegel exercises
One of the most important factors when trying to overcome erectile dysfunction and for a healthy and hard erection is to practice PC Muscle lifts alternatively called Kegel exercises. After the age of 35 men naturally lose muscle tone in their penis. Just like the rest of your body if you don't do some sort of regular physical exercise your muscles in your body become weaker.
Kegel exercises, lifting and contracting your PC muscle are simple and effective to do in the privacy of your own home and there is a video on my About page if you're unsure but I will be explaining in detail.
Strengthening you PC muscle is often only one of a specific set of practices for optimum sexual well-being but it's well worth trying this if you feel your erection is just not as strong as it used to be and especially if you're over 40. This exercise also tightens the reflex spasm that causes involuntary ejaculation if you also experience premature ejaculation.
Kegel exercises are also vital if you're recovering from Prostate cancer or other prostate conditions no matter what your doctor told you this exercise is not just to regain bladder control but is a vital component to strengthening the whole muscle that keeps your genital area tight It also promotes blood flow and sensation which is vital to build your erection and promote orgasmic pleasure.
PC muscle exercise combined with movement and massage to open blood flow throughout your genitals and body, breathwork to fuel your vital organs which also powers blood flow into your penis and visualization to give your brain a positive blueprint for successful lovemaking and self pleasure. There are also diet and lifestyle considerations. These are all part of a plan we make during a personal consultation or skype session.
You can start doing your PC muscle exercise immediately and you will also feel more energetic, connection and strength in your penis within 4-6 weeks and very often within 1 week.
This is how you find your PC muscle-So when you go to the bathroom, during urination stop your flow midstream. The muscle that stops the flow is your PC muscle. So 6 days a week contract your PC muscle towards your buttocks, you should see or feel a slight lift at the base of your penis. 2-3 times per day do 20-30 small contractions (not during urination) just make a routine like doing the lifts as you brush your teeth, waiting for the kettle to boil etc. After 2 weeks try to work up to 100 contractions consecutively this is the magic number when you feel an undeniable increased strength to your erection and maybe increased girth which your partner will certainly notice.
This photo will give you the location of your PC muscle.
If you'd like further information on how you can enjoy your lovemaking through natural practices then you're welcome to call me on 0870990970.
Peace and Love Tara
how to stop premature ejaculation naturally - strengthen your pc muscle
Enjoying good health and sexual well -being is a combination of several facets, nutrition, a relaxed mind and a strong yet flexible body.
We move and exercise to be physically fit which also brings the bonus of healing our mind too. Certain exercises target certain parts of our body and for sexual well-being we can hone our PC muscle which is the muscle that keeps our genital area young and tight.
If you experience Premature Ejaculation or cum involuntarily or before you would prefer then tightening the muscle spasm that causes the reflex action of ejaculation will be one of the best ways you can help yourself. When used in combination with breathwork you will slow your body down and enjoy more intense orgasms which balances your mind body. By regular exercising of your PC muscle you may experience an expansion of the girth of your penis too.
How to do your PC/Kegel exercise - When you go to the bathroom, during urination stop the flow mid stream feel and engage with the contraction of the muscle that stops the flow as if you're tightening your internal penis muscle towards your buttocks or back. You only stop your flow to locate the muscle.
6 days a week do 20 or 30 small contractions it's about routine and doing these contractions, maybe while brushing your teeth or some other mindless activity you do every day.
After 2 weeks or when you're ready work up to 100 continuously, this is when you really feel the change. This exercise also promotes balanced sexual energy and vitality for life-your feelgood factor.
During a one to one session I guide you on various methods of connecting and using this muscle to draw sexual energy through your body to intensify your orgasmic pleasure and prolong your sexual pleasure. It's the combination of healing and connection between mind and body that enables you to overcome premature ejaculation.
I have included a drawing below to visually explain where this muscle is located if you're not sure and there is a video on my About page if you need further guidance.
Peace and love from Tara
slow sex can cure pe and ed
When we can be fully present in the moment that's when we start to feel deep within. Mindfulness which is an ancient Buddhist practice which is simply the practice of just being present with what is. So we can use this tool as Sexual Mindfulness.
We can always learn from these practices of self cultivation which are centuries old but needed more than ever in a world where many people are becoming increasingly disillusioned with the hamster wheel of life and the freedom we thought we had gained from the internet enslaves us even more. Obsessive checking with what everyone else is doing with their lives or watching acts that used to be private. Some of us are beginning to lose our sense of peace when we are constantly bombarded with media and gadgets.
The mind disconnects with our senses when our eyes are focused on a screen, our bodies become numb when the mind is concentrating on purely visual images.
Using sexual mindfulness one disconnects from stress and anxiety which are often the root cause of premature ejaculation and performance anxiety. Gradually you reach a beautiful place of relaxation using breath work.
You are only conscious of the sensations of the moment. Any anxiety of past sexual experiences is let go, freeing one to be fully present in the beauty and ecstasy of the moment.
When you truly feel every touch, every tingle, the positive energy and electricity rises bringing us to a heightened state of pleasure and sensuality.
With Sexual mindfulness we can nurture a rare intimacy with another or with ourselves.
Innovation, science and technology has brought us the world at our fingertips but nothing is as satisfying real touch, scent, birdsong, deep peace and relaxation which are the ultimate of pleasures.
Peace and love from Tara 0870990970
Your prostate - natural energy & pleasure
We often experience sex with our mind but it's our body that really feels it and that nourishes us. Yet like our cars we often don’t know how it actually runs. How to to service it properly, and how to tune the engine, it’s something we often leave to the professionals, doctors, therapists yet when we learn how to explore this ourselves then or mind body connects, we know how to work it blissfully, we instinctively know the right fuel to put in and how good it feels when we feel vital and healthy.
Ignorance when it comes to our body certainly isn’t bliss. Sadly only a small percentage of men have experienced orgasmic pleasure through external prostate massage.
Your prostate is your central sexual energy centre. External prostate massage creates blood flow and stimulates sperm production, it’s an area that’s often missing out on loving touch and it's imperative for blood flow which can protect from Prostate Cancer. It’s a very important part of Prostate and general Male Sexual Health. Prostate Massage also increases sperm production and blood flow to power a stronger erection, especially when combined with kegel/PC muscle exercise.
Prostate Massage activates your vital energy it fuels your life that why when we're not enjoying our sexuality we often lack energy and are prone to depression. We need to stimulate our sexual energy to fuel our energy and passion for life. This is why aour sexuality is so important.
A woman’s 2nd orgasmic centre is located there too. Massage and certain lovemaking positions arouse this area for deeper and more intense orgasms than clitoral orgasms can ever give a woman.
Knowing your body, every facet of it enables you to keep your own body healthy guide you and your partner to deeper states of bliss, relaxation and wisdom. Take time to explore what feels good through touch and massage, for if we truly don’t know and feel at one with our own energy and body how can we expect anyone else to?
Peace and love
Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Dysfunction-Your Home Remedy
We are always evolving or we should be,learning and growing. It's when we stay stuck that life can't move on. And we should all want that. The practices I give you are space for you to really just enable you to let go of the negative layers of the past so you can enjoy your life and sex life the way you want it to be. I have provided you with The best home remedy to overcome PE or ED especially in the case of those who bring anxiety and stress home. It's daily practice of anything that changes the habits we had formed or enables us to learn how we can evolve to living the life we want.
We can utilize the part of our brain that enables us to be really good at a certain sport, activity or language; the more you practice the more proficient you become, this goes for making love....it becomes natural and knowing.
Just like we have the capability to learn so do we have the capability to unlearn or replace a bad habit with a good or habit.
Most of our learning happens up to the age of 7 and mostly we learn from by example and repetition rather than consciously and we haven't always grasped the wisdom that comes from experience except when it comes to the practical; look both ways before you cross the road or you'll get run over. If we feel that we weren't loved because we weren't shown how to love, hugs, kisses, cuddles. Or we were told we had to do better, we didn't do it well enough, or we were told we didn't do something well enough all this negativity stays with many people.
Those negative experiences stay with us and become ingrained in our subconscious and unfortunately some people believe those voices from the past, the judgments of others. That is not YOU, it's not the core of the person you are now, the grown up who isn't a child.
Negative experiences of sex also stay with us and pop up at the worst possible times. We have the ability to let that experience go, to let that time go, to unlearn the practices that became habits, masturbating quickly, guiltily, that it was shameful,.....why do we believe other people's negative sexual viewpoints? When making love and finding pleasure from our bodies is the most amazing sensation we can enjoy.
Often we have just formed habit of making love quickly for whatever reason. Or if we really believe the media that stress the common belief that everyone is stressed and anxious and that is a normal state- it's not. Some people believe the doctors when they say PE can only be relieved by anti depressants or numbing sprays or that ED can only be treated by viagra, cialis, pumps or penile injections. There is always another way and a natural alternative.
There is always another way. During one to one session you can experience the power our body holds. If you want to learn how to last as long as you want with your partner. If you want enable yourself to regain your sexual power and enjoy naturally hard erections even if this has been happening for years and is been caused by illness or medication or just the stress of work and relationships.
You're welcome to experience a one to one session 0870990970 or take a look at the videos I created just for you so you can enjoy your sex life naturally.
Wishing you unlimited bliss.
Tara le mains Author
Hello. I've been studying sexual well being and trained as a Naturopathic Sexologist and Holistic Sexual Therapist with some of the most eminent natural sexual energy masters as well as energy healing, energy medicine, meditation, mindfulness, Qi Gong and yoga for over 25 years. I've received training from some of the renown Masters in these fields such as Mantak Chia. I have a Degree in Naturopathic Sexology. I'm Certified by Breathworks UK and The British Mindfulness Institute. My passion is seeing the change in my students as a session is about learning and knowing yourself, this energy is within all of us, when you feel nurtured, the whole of you feels alive, I awaken that vitality and enable you find your positive charge.